Whatever fears, philosophy, beliefs you might have, the unconscious ones have just as powerful impact on your life as the conscious ones. eg do you believe life is a struggle or that things will always work out for the best; are people basically good or basically lousy.. other larger philosphical positions tend to get influenced by those unconscious ones, that are learnt as a kid through the way people treat you.

but the test for any views held has to be..   does this enhance my life or limit it. do these views make me feel good or bad. and what sort of people do i meet who share these views - are they worth knowing? i am cautious of many people who purport to have "answers" - remember, if you don't like the answer, are you asking the wrong question?

there's absolutely no point worrying about things you can't control, this is not denial, its sensible. its a good thing to occasionally look at small parts of your life that you can control, and make them more enjoyable. (from cooking more interesting food, reading different things, changing the channel, joining a film club, hiking, going one night a month to a comedy club, who knows what).

these things don't answer the big questions, but they make the many small moments more fun.. and that, to me, is the answer..

best wishes

freda