Georgiansilver, your post has prompted me to share these thoughts from a book about HUNA (Hawaiian mysticism) called Clearing Your Lifepath Through Kahuna Wisdom by Dr. Allan P Lewis. These are Dr Lewis' recommendations to HUNA students wishing to clear "complexes and fixations" (negative mental/emotional habits) and to grow spiritually in the process. I think they fit in very well with this discussion ...

"Make no comparisons
Make no judgements
Delete your need to understand

Make no comparisons means you are not to compare your life to the lives of others. Nor are you to compare your life to theirs.
Nor are you to compare the lives of other people to each other. You are as and what you are. So are they. Change your own life if you wish, but not because of comparisons to others, only by your own considered choice. And allow others the same privilege.

Make no judgements, for these are quick reactions to previous programming, and as you have been learning previous progamming is more often wrong than right. With the aid of the High Self you have the right to judge yourself, but not others. Learn to respond to people and circumstances, not as old habit patterns would have you do but as each experience calls for response, based on the thoughtful assessment of its individual merits.

Delete your need to understand, the need to know the "why(s) and wherefore(s)" of the people and circumstances around you. Accept understanding as it comes, not with an emotional and negative "need" to understand. Wisdom and understanding come, not because you think you need them, but when you allow them to flow through you from the High Self. Wisdom and understanding are a function of what is, not what you think you want things to be.

In fact, all three of these injunctions are saying simply this: Give up your ideas of what you think you ought to be. Accept what is. Then proceed to advance yourself from there. Only then will you cease to criticize, to contradict, and to display all the tricks of negative ego. You will become truly humble and gain the great impersonal overview.

Wisdom and understanding will flow your way, and you will begin to know the meaning of I Am That I Am".


I'm finding that practicing Dr Lewis recommendations is quite the challenge, requiring constant mental vigilance. At least, this new perpective seem to be completely at odds with the way I was conditioned to think and behave! But it's worth it. All that judging, condemning, criticizing, analysing, comparing, competing, flouting and defending my precious personal opinions as if they were the most important, vital thing in the universe --- what a waste of time and energy I now realize all that was! And I'm becoming a happier, healthier, more vital and loving person for my efforts.

I think I'm more pleasant to be around these days too!

daylia


PS I'm preparing material for the HUNA workshops Two Bears and I are giving later this month, and I do appreciate very much the opportunity to "rehearse" these teachings on a public forum.

So Mahalo nui loa! (thank you very much) to the Mudcat!