Thanks a lot to all who posted information. We covered as much ground as we could, but inevitably mised out on most.
   We loved Elsie's pub at Cowden Pound, and met vectis, Dave bryant and Essex girl there. Then we headed for romney Marsh, spent a night in the Red Lion, Snargate. What a place. Thanks for the recommendation, Dave Masterson.
Then we followed Ralphie's suggestion for the Thursday night, and headed for Faversham. Excellent pub, the Three Tuns, and a convivial session, follwed by convivial single malt chez the organisers. Explored Standard Quay and the barges, then followed Kampervan's lead and found the Shpwrights Pub at Hollowshore, Oare Creek(took a couple of attempts but well worth it).
Then we headed for Sittingbourne to try to find Bob Roberts barge Cambria at the Dolphin Yard, but alas the yard was padlocked.
   Then we headed for Lower Halstow(cant remember who suggested that) and had a wander round creek and boats, and then that was itm we headed for my nephew's wedding at Cooling(Hoo peninsula or Isle of Grain, not sure of the geograhical names round there).
great time we had, and lots more places on the list to visit next time around. Mudcat Travel Guides turned up trumps, brilliant ideas from all and sundry.