What difference does it make what the "neutral or non-injured" parties think? Who cares?

If someone punches me in the nose I am not going to send the Gallup pollsters out to those in the immediate vicinity to take a random sample of their "feelings" about how I should respond. If it was a little twerp that hit me I am going to smash him. If it was a troglodyte with biceps bigger than my waist I am going to apologize for making him angry and get the heck out of Dodge.

The feelings of the neutral and non-injured parties are absolutely meaningless.

Freightdawg