What's the difference between being raised in a foster home where the family cares only about the money they get for taking me in, and being raised by people who (very possibly) care more about their personal self-gratification than any "horrid" effects the exercise of their new-found "righta to parenthood" will (most likely) inflict on me?

Katlaughing answered most of this pretty thoroughly a few posts back. But there are some other unfair assumptions in that statement also. Mature healthy adults as a rule keep their sexual activity private. Gay or straight. It's naive (or paranoid?) to assume that with gay couples it's "all sex all the time" or sex is somehow in-your-face if you're in their company at home. (The closest you might come close to accurate with that kind of generalization is when considering high school and college age people, regardless of gender or orientation--but even there, it's more like wishful thinking! Maturity is the solution to this situation.)

The sexual-gratification-at-any-cost issue comes in when you're if you're layering in questions of mental health problems, the catch-all term "devience" and the still not-well-understood "sex addiction." Those are separate issues affecting what is certainly a small percentage of straights and gays.

Studies have shown that humans past a certain youthful period in their lives think about sex a lot. But that doesn't mean the thought is acted upon every time it occurs. Gay or straight or bisexual.

Finally, we have all heard stories about foster homes from hell. But most of them are good places and are the homes of people who truly want to help children. Most of them spend money out of their own pockets above and beyond any reimbursement the state makes to cover the expenses of caring for each child. This was the conclusion my mother, an MSW, reached with the many foster families she worked with over the years in the Aid for Dependent Children program with the state where she worked.

SRS