Well, daylia, I reiterate a point that I made earlier about the fellows I know who adopted the two kids from the Chinese orphanage. No matter what psychological problems the boys may develop because they have two fathers instead of a mother and a father (and that remains to be established), they are certainly much better life now than they would have if they'd been left in the orphanage.

Their two fathers make sure the boys have plenty of association with women both in the home and outside, and they're fully aware of the problems the boys may face from outside the family, and are perfectly capable of teaching the boys how to cope with them. I believe that the main source of any potential psychological problems would ultimately be caused by people outside the family who "view with alarm," from kids who have learned bigotry from their parents, and those elements of society that feel they have a right to meddle in other peoples' lives.

Years ago, a friend of mine responded to a racist's argument, "Would you want your daughter to marry one!??" by saying, "No, not as long as she and her husband would be persecuted by bigots like you." The problem, of course, is not an interracial marriage—or a child having two parents of the same gender—the problem is the bigot, the meddler, and the opinionated.

The boys have a good home and loving parents. There are millions of children in this world who should be so lucky.

Don Firth