My question is, do people's personal "wants" and "urges" toward parental forms of self-gratification outweigh the heavy and very real emotional, psychological, social and physical costs to children of "growing up gay" in ANY way, in this culture today?

So if a straight couple acts like they don't really want a child, but when it comes along, they pull up their socks and admit that they're in for the long haul it's okay? That someone who really really really really wants children is somehow overburdoned with that desire to the point that they actually won't make a good parent? You haven't been listening--the "costs" are minimal if the household is loving and respectful. Are you afraid that gay parents might try to unduly influence their children to be gay instead of straight? Daylia, it's time to stop worrying about the "motives" behind gay adoptions--any time a child is wanted, then there is a good chance that that child will thrive in that environment.

As to programs like "Queen Eye" and such--I see that as on a par with "While You Were Out" and "Changing Space"--they drive me nuts to watch, and if my family ever pulled a stunt like having a tv crew come in to trash the house, I'll murder them all. It's popular culture televison--there are little snippits we can learn from, but mostly viewers are just watching for that micro-expression at the end of the program to see if the recipient of such largess is appalled and pissed off.

SRS