I'm honored, Daylia.

I don't think there's a huge difference between sexual orientation and race. Neither factor is a matter of choice and both race and sexual orientation are excuses for societies to treat people badly.

I met a South African woman once, who was deathly afraid of apartheid ending. She said all the Black people she'd ever met were rude and angry. I asked her "If you were treated like they'd been, wouldn't you tend to be a bit rude and angry at the people who treated you that way?" She asked if Blacks in America were like that. I told her some of the ones who grew up poor and without hope were, but most I'd met were as good or back as her or me, likely because they had the same opportunities we did. I think people ought to have opportunities to be as good they CAN be.

If all the gay people you've met have had problems, think about the possibility they're not representative of ALL gay people. As for your 20 year-old friend who wants to get married and have lots of kids - does his gayness really have anything to do with that? Immaturity and impulsiveness are universal human possibilities.

I'm guessing you work or live in a place that presents you with some pretty bad examples of parents of all types. There are good examples, but you don't come into contact with them. I think whether or not a person should adopt a kid should be based on that individual's potential for being a good parent, and sexual orientation shouldn't be a factor. The individual has to have the right to be considered first.