I don't think there's a huge difference between sexual orientation and race. Neither factor is a matter of choice ...

I cannot agree with this, Jeri. I am a human being. My sexual orientation is and always was a matter of choice, as I explained to kat above -

... I am just as "bisexual", "lesbigay" and into "self-gratification" as you or anyone else ...

I chose not to physically engage in a bisexual lifestyle a few years after I hit puberty though, for what I consider to be excellent personal and social reasons. That was a very easy choice to make, for me. And as far as I know, that choice has done me no harm whatsoever.


I am straight by personal choice, Jeri. I made that choice in adolescence, and I could change it at any time if I felt so inclined.

Surely I am not the only human being who chose and continues to choose their sexual orientation and lifestyle!!


I think whether or not a person should adopt a kid should be based on that individual's potential for being a good parent, and sexual orientation shouldn't be a factor. The individual has to have the right to be considered first.


The individual traits of adoptive parents should of course be carefully screened and considered first. And whether people like it or not, sexual orientation and lifestyle is now and will very likely continue to be an important "personal variable" - a weighty causal or determining factor in the state of anybody's physical / emotional / social health and well-being.

The 20yr old you've referred to is an excellent example of this.

As I said to Don above,

Denying or minimizing the gay "price tag" may help some of you feel better, but in reality it is highly irresponsible and benefits no one.

Again, I am very glad there are people out there who are doing better than the ones I know and have known. And certainly the people I've known are not exactly the same as all people everywhere!

But I do live in exactly the same world as you do, Jeri, near a quite "representative" small city here in Ontario. I am a teacher, a parent, a co-worker, a volunteer, a neighbour, a musician, an aunt and more. None of these occupations are what I consider to be highly unique.

Sorry, I just don't see what exactly makes my observations and experiences any less "representative" than anyone else's.

daylia