So you would have preferred for your partner to have waited and asked if the hole should be fixed or not? A certain song comes to mind....

There's a hole in the bucket dear Liza, dear Liza,
There's a hole in the bucket dear Liza, a hole.

Well then FIX IT dear Henry, dear Henry, dear Henry
Well the FIX IT dear Henry, the bucket, a hole.......

I do agree that you should have been asked to paint the ceiling and not have been given a demand.

Michelle