Daylia, I respect that you are being thoughtful about this, but it is very hard NOT to take it personally given the subject matter and my (our) personal situation. I kept my big mouth shut in this thread for a looonnng time, and probably should cntinue to, but here goes...

I think it's not a case of "people not looking at it", or "political correctness". Many people have looked at it, don't care (or in my case have no time for the concept of, nor the phrase, political correctness), and simply don't agree with your viewpoint.

I know I am certainly oversimplifying your opinion, but it sounds in some posts an awful lot like:

"Blacks (or Jews, or Irish, or Evangelicals) face terrible prejudices, so we should not let them adopt children - for the sake of the children, of course"

and in others:

"Excercise fanatics (or NASCAR fans, or ebay shoppers, or music makers fer chrissakes) are so caught up in their passions that they will not make proper parents".

If I am completely misinterpreting you, I apologize.