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Thread #72590   Message #1253568
Posted By: GUEST
22-Aug-04 - 01:34 PM
Thread Name: BS: Can You Say Acrimony?
Subject: RE: BS: Can You Say Acrimony?
Sigh.

Don, I get followed by jerk anon guests too. There are a lot of people here who do.

I can't even believe you haven't yet been able to get your head around the concept of "ignore them". They WILL go away, guaranteed, if you simply NEVER respond to them. But you have to be consistent, and you have to ignore ALL obnoxious responses, not just the obnoxious responses of members, which is the fatal mistake most of you members who seem otherwise very intelligent, keep continuing to make.

It isn't about the identity of poster, it is about the content of the post. Ignore all posts that are rude, obnoxious, etc to you ESPECIALLY when those posts/comments are made by MEMBERS.

End the double standard of behavior here--which only each individual Mudcat member can do for themselves, and the dynamic here will change.

I have seen you, time and again, break your promise to yourself to not respond to the trolling post, but usually only when that post comes from an unidentified guest. You also don't hold members to the same standard as guests. You are one of the well liked and respected members here, so if people like you and McGrath and SRS and others could just get a grip on this, a whole lot of sniping, trolling, and flaming in this forum would end tomorrow.

Call your fellow members on this behavior, by politely calling them on it once, and then ignore them too.

You and too many influential others here seem to be obsessed with hanging onto your most beloved Mudcat myth, that of the anon guest monolith is the cause of all our forum's problems. Once you can free yourselves from that illusion, you could change your behavior, and most other posters' behavior would follow to conform with yours.

You forum members who are regulars, and respected by most, have a tremendous amount of power here that you consistently refuse to yield. It is the power of silence. The power of shunning those who behave badly. Change the forum by changing the way you react to others here, and demonstrate you are worthy of the admiration and respect of others here.

Please.