Argument is a funny word - it can mean a discussion between people who disagree about some thing, or it can mean a quarrel. And those aren't the same thing by any means.

Discussing disagreements is a useful thing to do. Letting that turn into a quarrel isn't.

Some people seem to find it hard not to turn discussions into arguments. Sometimes I get the impression that it's not that the disagreement build up into a quarrel, it that people are looking for a quarrel for its own sake, and just about any pretext will serve.

I wholly agree with Jerry in finding absurd the notion that "If you insult someone, it's their fault for being insulted". At the same time I don't think that the fact we've been insulted in a forum like this ever means that we are justified in throwing insults back. "It takes two to tango."