'spaw, I'm sorry for your pain and I understand your anger. Maybe this will help. I went out on my own when I was 18 years old. Home was just too tough, so I left. Some of the most enjoyable times of my life was then. I went to NY and lived in the village and met many of the people we talk about here in the Mudcat. I learned a lot about life and I wouldn't trade that time for anything. I didn't have anyone to help me. I was alone, but I made it and have a lot to look back on. "M" has you. Help her find a job, help her find an apartment. Help her to take some classes to improve her life. Keep her busy with getting on with her life. I know it doesn't look good right now, but this may be the best thing that ever happened, except for meeting you and Karen. I'm one of those people who see the glass half full, and sometimes it is. This may be one of those times. I hope so and I wish "M" well.

Love, annap