The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #72778   Message #1257432
Posted By: Jeri
26-Aug-04 - 01:12 PM
Thread Name: BS: We've lost a good one
Subject: RE: BS: We've lost a good one
What progress can be made by blaming people? It's over, done, and I think trying to figure out how to keep it from happening again is more important. The only conrol most of us have here is over what WE contribute, and the 'cause' you (and I) think is important is not a 'who' but a 'what'.

I will agree with Shambles a bit here. We are so used to expecting someone to clean up after us that we do stuff when we perhaps should know better. You know how many times I've seen a post which, under ANY circumstance, should have been deleted followed by one reply...then another...then another. The people who posted, I'd wager, had consciences telling them "hey - this is something you should let go," and POSTED ANYWAY! My guess is they knew the whole thread would be zapped and their bad behavior would go with it. The instigator gets blamed for all of it, but that "But MAAAA...he MADE me do it!" doesn't even work for kids most of the time. It should be pretty easy to see through here, too.

Blaming people is a wimp-out; a way of avoiding any real solutions. Then again, I don't see this sort of thing ever stopping. There are too many here who enjoy it. We, as a group, get what we deserve.