Jeri said.

We are so used to expecting someone to clean up after us that we do stuff when we perhaps should know better. You know how many times I've seen a post which, under ANY circumstance, should have been deleted followed by one reply...then another...then another.

Again the concept that something should have been deleted and again this judgement of another's post. What use is being encouraged to judge the worth of something over which we have no real control? But the one who first posted and those following, did have control and I agree that the trick is to try and ensure that we are all encouraged to exert that self control and move on, rather than to judge the worth or otherwise, of each other's postings.

I feel that the judgement is less that the offending post should have been deleted, to prevent others from making it worse or whatever, and maybe not judgement at all, just an acceptance that it was simply sad that it was posted in the first place. For once it has appeared - perhaps it is just a case of accepting that whatever damage it is going to do - has already been done? And of then limiting the attention it receives and the (over) reaction to it? A friend of mine had a very annoying phrase when something went wrong and which I usually got very animated about, but it probably sums up this situation here. He would just calmly and with no inflection in his voice say - Oh dear - how sad - never mind.

Jack Charlton was/is a soccer manager who had a very down to earth, no-nonsense approach to the job. Sometimes a draw was the best his (Irish) team could resonably expect. However, relying too much on this was risky. He came up with the instruction to his team that they were always to try to score the equalising goal first!

If his team did manage to do this, sometimes the other side would not manage to score at all and as a result his team did better than just draw the game - they actually won! Perhaps that maybe the beginning of an answer?