The anonymous types that are abusive or rude or just here to troll and flame are easily recognized and easy to ignore. If this group wasn't so damn verbal, it would be simple to rid the place of them.....but we just can't shut up and do it!!!

Many people have managed quite easily for many years to do what you find so difficult. They just do not seem to matter or generally to be much listened to. Look back over this thread alone and see all those who do this easily and as matter of course and simply request that this is generally encouraged. Why do you simply not listen to them? Why do you go on insisting that this is simply too difficult for you to manage?

These people do have the self restraint that you have found impossible for so long and the effect of their sacrifice is simply to allow the space for those (so damn verbal) who do find it impossible not to respond in kind - to do as they wish.....and still somehow attempt to maintain the high ground.