No, I don't think it wouldn't change the way I live Carol. I'm usually pretty happy with the way I live, feel and think. I am not responsible for anyone else's thoughts, feelings, choices or behaviors - only for my own. So if I did end up experiencing everyone else's feelings and reactions toward me after I die, I'd see it as a valuable exercise in (loving) detachment.
Now, I just hope this doesn't slip my mind at some crucial future moment ...