Davey, the essence of Manhood, in my mind, is being able to express all facets of one self. There is no use denying our essence. We were made with excessive amounts of testosterone, we are bigger and stronger and so on. That is our place in the scheme. But somehow, over the course of time we have become confused. We feel that to express our strength, we must never seem soft. We ignore what we knew instinctively as children. Ever watch a 11 or 12 year old boy take care of a little child. Protective, yet gently. Loving to the max. I had always wished that I would have had a son, that I might teach him what manhood is really about. Many that I see do fine in teaching about the masculine aspects to manhood, but completely ignore the feminine side of the young man. It is OK for us to feel our softness, as long as we don't forget our toughness as well. Done right, it seems to me, and you end up with a man that can fight like hell, when needed, yet cry at a sad song. Summon strength when needed, yet be gentle as lambs in the main. Answer aggression in an umcompromising way, yet seek peace at every opportunity. I am rambling here, but