MMario, I agree. It isn't your "feminine" side that makes you loving and gentle, it's your human side. Somewhere along the line, someone decided to separate out human characteristics and assign them to a specific sex. It's a case of making a sex fit the description instead of the other way around. Thank goodness not everyone has bought into it.
Davey, don't try to fit into anyone's mold. Just be you, and learn to recognize when you're fighting with yourself. Your very words tell me you're not as locked up as you may think -"I felt your pain, and wanted to reach out and hug you." Here's my hug!