"I'm thinking of people who when they die or disappear will leave a lasting imprint on their world."

The "forty-something" Robert Deerman saw a grand opportunity in a 10 year old, shy, naive khandu. He took him under his wing, made him feel important for the first time in his life, & used him sexually for the next year, leaving "a lasting imprint on khandu's world".

A negative, destructive act. But, by God, it did not destroy khandu!!

I had to work through a lot of stuff, including whether I was gay or straight (or both). It took years to find some solid footing for myself.

Over the years, I finally gained self-respect. I like the person I have become. And, I am aware that Deerman's evil selfish deeds are part of the reason I am who I am.

Incidentally, Deerman was shot to death during his attempt at bank robbery in 1966.

Rev. A. Eugene Dyess was the flip side of Deerman's coin. He was an integral part of my becoming balanced. Through him, I saw the Love that was more than love. Through him I learned that no one has the power to decide who I am but me.

Dyess did not erase Deerman's deeds. He was the counter-balance, which put me in position to be responsible for my own actions.

Each man left his imprint.

We all shall leave an imprint of some importance upon someone. We can decide if it be positive or negative!

Thanks Ebbie for the thread & thank you Alan for the heads up!

ken