Very few men realize these things and go through life acting the part thats expected of them. I've always been involved with the (please excuse this expression - NOI)blue collar type of man, including my father, who was an Italian baker from Italy. You can't get more macho than that.
I discovered that, even though they denied it and refused to acknowledge a gentleness, it was there. I have been trained to respond to that gentleness without letting them know I know they're gentle. Silly, huh!
I think I see it more in some men than others and that may be what makes me fall in love.