Yahrzeit, the annual Jewish ritual, is not,strictly speaking, mourning; it is more of a remembrance or commemoration of the deceased family member.

The Mourner's Kaddish, recited to the memory of the deceased does not, curiously enough, mention death. It is a paean to God, praising Him and His works. The words are the same as the Kaddish recited 3 or 4 times during the synagogue service, only the intent of the prayer is different at that moment.

I was bar mitzvah in an orthodox shul, and was married by the same rabbi fifteen years later, Simon Dolgin of blessed memory. I consider myself more in the conservative tradition, but generally go to reform temples in deference to my wife.

Rabbi Sol, I hope my comments were not too off base. Any way, L'Shana Tova (Happy New Year) to all.---John