Another example 'cos it's easier than trying to explain in the abstract. As a Christian I find the concept of extra-marital sex wrong [NB I APPLY THIS TO ME PERSONALLY AND NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES TO ANYONE ELSE SO I'M NOT BEING PI OR JUDGEMENTAL]. So occasionally, I meet a truly gorgeous bloke... I could do three things; a] have an affair, which would be allowing my wrong side it's way, and would be totally wrong for me b] ignore the way I'm feeling, and run the risk of things getting completely out of hand when I'm least expecting it c] recognise my feelings and try to analyse them, so that I can accept the person as a friend in whose company I can take pleasure without anything I don't want getting in the way [There is a fourth way, and that's to avoid him like the plague, but that's not always possible, and it's a shame to lose a friend if there's a reasonable way round it].

So much for the lecture - that doesn't always work, but it's certainly the ideal [well I think so, anyway!]