Uilleand, what a beautiful contribution

You are so right about accepting your darkside. It is very important to avoid judging yourself or feeling guilty about thoughts or behavior that may hold no great virtue.
To be truly loving to others we must also be loving and compassionate with ourselves.

When working on this issue, I like to think of what the Daliai Lama once said "if you can't be of help to others, then at least be of no harm"

Little Neo