Mary, I'm sorry you feel that way. I feel quite sure the folks at your church don't intend to be offensive. If you don't want to ask them or the priest for input, perhaps you should consider why you are reacting so strongly to this phenomenon. I suspect that the negative feelings you seem to have about it will affect your ability to worship there. We can rarely change others. Good grief! It's hard enough to effect any changes in ourselves. If you can't get past this, you could consider leaving that church body. Chances are, though, you will see the same gesture elsewhere at some time. I hope you can resolve this, for your own emotional & spiritual good.

best,

Barbara