Mary:
In religion as in all other aspects of life, you must do what you feel is right. I never saw it used at Mass either. The closest thing to a Nazi salute I ever saw in church was the statues of Jesus with the two forefingers raise and his hand held like he was raising it in class. Having said that,I believe you should talk to your priest and failing to get an adequate answer then look for a new parish. kindest regards, Neil (Irish Sergeant)