I guess I express my points the way I do, is because I am pushing 'thinking', rather than any specific viewpoint. If I use the "best way for them" approach, I undermine my own point that some aspects of interaction should not be subjective. Conclusions and final positions may be subjective, but certain points of logic and linguistic definition are not....a bad defense IS a bad defense, and people weaken their own position when they resort to one. They are not required to agree with MY beliefs, but I am trying to get across the logical/linguistic version of "You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear!"

Still, as you imply..perception is important, and I will honestly try to be as genteel, inoffensive and 'neutral' as I can in my debates.