She is being unreasonable but probably can't help it. Maybe she needs little tokens of appreciation now and then. Pick up little flower boquets now and then, a small item at a craft fair that you are just guessing she might like. Tell her you are trying to intuit her wishes. if you guess right you are in luck. if you guess wrong and she is not being manipulative, she will appreciative the gesture, and understand that you are not all that great at guessing her needs and she will maybe be more realistic. If however, she is doing this as a manipulation, you will never ever win and are being abused. that simple. mg