Good thread.

Not being a solo performer, I can only go by my own reactions on reading the different posts.

It does seem that stating one's preference BEFORE beginning really should go the longest way in solving your problem.

If people still insist on joining along, and you aren't pleased, then I'm with Deckman Bob. Stop playing.

I do think there are lessons that need to be learned, and it sounds like this is an important one.

..xx..e