Georgian Silver, to misquote the old song,"Smile, and the world smiles with you, Grieve, and you grieve alone." To be honest, if it had been a member of my own family that had been in Ken Bigley's situation, ofcourse I would have grieved; but I would not have expected you to grieve with me. In fact, I would consider it an intrusion into my own grief. Now if you wanted to feel anger or outrage at his murder, that would be more natural and appropriate. I did not grieve at Gigley's death, but I felt disgust and anger. I also felt a sense of helplessness as I felt the situation was much larger than the death of one man. Another perspective was that he went out there knowing the danger. He gambled and lost. That does not excuse his murder but we should not lose sight of the bigger picture.