Janie, my condolences to you in the loss of your Granny. She sounds like a terrific, strong woman. And she lives on in you!

There's a lot of great advice up above. I try to go with detaching just enough to be able to get through it, but not so much that it has no meaning for me......It's a very fine line, really. I try not to look at anyone in particular, until I am sure I can. And I pray for help in getting through it so that those who are there are served to the best of my ability. That said, I never know how it's going to turn out. It's never easy.

If you can sing it a few times beforehand, for some family members, it will help to take some of the edge off of the raw emotion.

No matter what happens, it will be okay. Tears born of love are gifts themselves.

All the best,

KT