Ten years. First time around. I'm one of the younger 'catters, from the survey a couple of weeks back.

When your wife is your best friend and your chosen partner for everything - conversation, dancing, music etc. - and when your mutual admiration is such that arguments and disagreements enable you to learn more about the other and strengthen the relationship, you are guaranteed never to be invited on Oprah.

She has recently started working where I am, which gives us opportunity for a chat at lunchtime and to actually take a break instead of working through. Nice to relax and talk without the kids for half an hour!

The fact that some people I work with think we're having an affair says a lot about us, I guess.