having learned in college that, as a woman, I am a bad joke. That sounds like suhc a sad statement...perhaps the one who caused you to feel that way was the bad joke?!

to Guest, One who's been there: I don't think we ever forget those we've loved, no matter the manner of parting. I've been with my Rog for almost 26 yrs and there are still times when one of my exes or true love boyfriends comes to mind.

Give it time sounds so trite, but it really is true....plus don't try to force it. Our hearts and souls know not the constructs of man-made time, even though it is what helps to heal them...all in good time can be a helpful mantra.:-) And, welcome to the Mudcat!