Advice for newlyweds from a veteran Pastor:

1. The rules change here; the game is not the same game you were playing up to this point. The points system is totally different now. The definition of "winning" is new and different now. The goals are different. So is the nature of the plays, the purposes tactics strategies moves and awards for winning. All new.

So forget the efforts you used to make to win as a single person. You won that game. Now learn how this one works, just as a beginner always must.

2. The most important single thing is the communication line. Don't let anyone cut it and don't cut it yourselves. Don't withold from each other, don't start in lying or pretending and if you do, get it sdaid ASAP. The communication line is only there as long as you put it there, and it is sacred.

3. It is a "postulated" relationship. Don't put it on automatic and expect it to continue. it continues because you put it there every day. The connections only works when you put it there.

Love,


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