I will pass on the advice from my mother who was happily wed to her husband for 45 years.

She said never go to sleep angry, always give a kiss good night and don't think you can come running home to me everytime you have an argument.

I will add: I know that family can add to the problems but look at what they too, are giving up. They no longer have the personal space they once had. This is a strain on all of you. Find a way to make it work. Family is a wonderful insurance policy.

Make sure nobody feels ripped-off. Talk.

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