dianavan - they are not aware of how his brain works except in the slightest superficial sense. They took him to doctors and the medication didn't work, and they gave up trying to understand.

We are very grateful for what we have been given, we just don't understand why they insist on not rearranging things so that we WON'T be imposing so damn much. They seem to prefer to remain martyred and angry at me for my body needing more sleep than normal.

Actually, they ignore everything about both me and their son that is either beyond or not contained in "normal" capabilities and behaviour. That's causing more of a problem than is necessary here, but that is their perogative because it's their house. *shrug*

CarolC - thanks, that may help a lot. If I'm the one with the desk under the bed it could work. He'd just have to duck to get past the bed to his desk. I've been trying to find a futon mattress through freecycle but so far we don't actually have a bed for us except for the guestroom bed.