As someone who grew up being misunderstood and not knowing why I couldn't function as a "normal" person because of my ADD, no matter how hard I tried, I can assure all of you that if Steve keeps trying to "fit in" in any job situation without getting any counseling or guidance on how to do it, he will continue to fail. He might fail many, many times over a period of a lifetime, but the best he will do is to maybe barely survive but never break out of poverty. And then he will become depressed.

He needs to be given some assistance in how a person functions effectively in a workplace, and he needs to find out what he's good at. If he works in a situation in which his ADD will cause problems for his employer, he's not doing either himself or his employer any favors.

Anyone who approaches giving advice on how to cope with disabilities using a condescending and patronizing tone, clearly has never been faced with the kinds of challenges that come with these kinds of disabilities, and is therefore not in a position to judge the maturity level of the person with the disability.

What Steve needs is an opportunity to develop a success mentality. He does not need more opportunities to reinforce his existing failure mentality.

Had his parents done a proper job of raising him in the first place, he would not currently have a failure mentality. I know this from my own experience of raising a child with ADHD as well as a specific learning disability. His parents now have an opportunity to help him get what he needs for his basic survival, which they did not provide him while he was growing up. They are the ones who chose to bring him into the world. They have a basic responsibility to make sure he has all of the basic survival skills he needs in order to get by in the world. They do owe him this.

Some day, they may need his assistance when they are old and decrepit. When that day comes, it won't serve them very well if he is so dysfunctional he can't even take care of himself. And if they just adopt a "fuck you" we don't owe you anything type of attitude, why shouldn't they expect the same from him when they are too old and feeble to take care of themselves? The answer is, they shouldn't.

What the hell do you people think families are for anyway? They are for nurturing, and helping the people you love. Geez.