Folks, I need some help with some old feelings. Dealing with his second wife and her kids and grandkids. As little as possible, but still one of them got in a little "dig" and I really want to rise above it. I know it didn't really matter to dad and it shouldn't to me, but they've decided to bury him in Utah instead of over here in CO where his folks are. He wanted a plain pine box which they will not do. They are pillars of the community and have to keep up appearances, imo. They are at least honouring his request that there be no funeral, just a graveside service. They are writing the obit and keeping it short because they don't know how much they will be charged for it and he "didn't leave any money for expenses." I got them to add one line, "he passed his love of music on to his kids."

Please send me some "stay kind and calm" thoughts for the next few days as we try to sort things out, the service as well as his instruments and gifts etc. which we gave him over the years. Sorry if that sounds ghoulish.

Thanks a bunch,

kat