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Thread #76261   Message #1349536
Posted By: hesperis
06-Dec-04 - 11:03 PM
Thread Name: BS: Hesperis getting divorced
Subject: RE: BS: Hesperis getting divorced
I *have* a company. It makes $5 a month, which is more than he's making right now, although he has inheritances and savings. If I'd had the resources to start it properly, it would be doing a lot better by now, because I built it good and solid, and I built it on what I can actually do.

Anyway, today I found a book among my stuff called "I could do anything, if I only knew what it was" - great book. It's what got me doing web hosting and studying for eventual entry into game design. I brought it with me because I thought he might be interested in reading it. Well, months ago he wasn't interested in it. Now, after suffering through interests inventories that are completely flat and don't suggest anything, he actually read it when I handed it to him. So, now he knows what he wants to do.

But the reason he hasn't gotten a part-time job in the past 3 months is because he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me. And now he says he loves me but he knows I'm not his mate.

Yes, we're young, and we didn't know exactly what we were getting into. He didn't realize that he didn't actually want to be with me, and I didn't realize that he wasn't willing. But don't accuse me of a lack of commitment, because that's one thing I'm definitely capable of.