Tanny, it's not that "Catters" have it down pat, it's that "we" have a wonderful therapist and resource centre right here. "We" know that a post here or a PM to one or two special people will bring a flood of responses that common sense knew all along, but emotional sense wasn't ready to listen to.

I use the " marks " because the people who post here are not exclusive to Mudcat, nor should they be referred to as "Catters" as an elitist group. It's a generic term that should mean everyone who posts here, so you should include yourself in that group!

And yes, it is a damn shame that we have to keep coming back to threads like this, too many, too soon.

LTS