"lighten up" ? Well, there is a serious side to this in so far as there are undoubtedly a lot of guitarists out there who's experience as a guitarist could be improved if they did things in a "better" way. A lot of frustrations would evaporate if they took the time to do things correctly - or at least in a recognised efficient manner. Silly hackneyed schoolboy humour doesn't help - it just adds to the problem!