"To be" is an important step on the road to "becoming", Jerry. So I value one just as highly as the other. If we don't fully embrace who we are right now, we can never move forward to become all that we are capable of being. And the same goes for how we regard others. If we want to help them in their process of "becoming", the best thing we can do for them is to unconditionally accept who and what they are right now.