The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #77610 Message #1385687
Posted By: LilyFestre
22-Jan-05 - 11:25 PM
Thread Name: BS: Cross cultural marriages
Subject: RE: BS: Cross cultural marriages
In our house, cultural issues require a conversation post pissed off mode when we can calmly talk to one another and really UNDERSTAND what happened and why it annoyed the other. If you had a heads up on KNOWING that there would be cultural differences, count yourself lucky. We knew each other a very short time before we married and we ran into several walls before figuring out just what the problem was (Okay, I know that sounds silly but my husband is Native American and I am of a German/American background...I thought he was like me in that traditions were minimal and Native American was his families background...I really didn't know how much of behaviors and cultures were passed on). Compromise and the ability to try to understand where the other person is coming from are key.