Oh dear. My current relationship (a very important one) is cross-cultural and have always been in cross-cultural. And every time I come crashing in on something we assumed that we understood, but were total strangers to. I am indigenous and have been married to a non-indigenous man and current is non-indigenous. Examples of total meltdown are frequent such as asking questions that in my culture you just don't ask, assuming knowledge that you don't own, not showing respect to the right people, encouraging children to mix with wrong moiety, social assumptions, hierarchy of myself or partner in social groups at particular times, age hierarchy (e.g. in my culture you ALWAYS serve Elders first whereas in the European culture it seems that you serve children first which is SO disrespectful to Elders in mine etc......) and hierarchy i.e. in European culture 'wife' is on top while 'partner' is down a bit and depending on if it is a work situation, social, political or what, hierarchy inside relationship changes whereas in Indigenous family role is most important all the time. Åssertion of individuality in European culture is primary socially whereas community and the obligations engendered is primary in Indigenous culture. Obligation to totality of extended family is primary in Indigenous culture whereas only obligation to immediate family is primary to non Indigenous. How one talks, or looks, or makes a stand for or against is also defined differently in different cultures. Assumptions and expectations are always difficult, obligations and duties also. We have a saying 'Tyerabarrbowaryaou' "I shall never become a white man". So you will never become a whatever other culture exists inside your marriage, only a part. All you can do is know yourself, and accept that you will never be completely anything else. A culture is a lifetime of so many complexities, that with the best will in the world, you can never be inside it if not born there. Look at what you have, think about any conflicts, always try and discuss, but my best advice is to accept that there are some things that neither you nor your husband will ever understand about each others cultural. It is a richness and a myster, I think, and you have a choice about whether it can become a problem.