Race is hardly worth discussing? Oh really. Tell that to the millions of people in the US alone who continue to be oppressed and discriminated against because of racism...

White people never want to take about racism. So if the "cultural difference" in this relationship is actually rooted in racial differences, but the original poster doesn't feel comfortable saying that it is race because of responses like dianavan's, what sort of aid and comfort will this poster get here?

Mixed race relationships have genuine conflicts rooted in racist beliefs. In the US, that means EVERYBODY because we have been raised (ie socially conditioned) to assimilate and fit into an inherently racist dominant society. The main tactic used to force assimilation into the dominant society, is to pretend to ourselves and with one another, that these differences rooted in institutionalized racism, don't exist.

And Homey don't play dat tune.