Look, others have taken exception to me making these distinctions. That's just fine. But I have yet to see anything from the original poster to this thread to explain what differences they were referring to when they said they were in a cross-cultural marriage.

I NEVER said only skin color counts. NEVER. I said IN MY EXPERIENCE racial differences and class differences were much more difficult to overcome than ethnic differences, especially if both families' ethnic backgrounds were highly assimilated to the dominant culture they reside in, and if they were from the same economic class and religious background.

That is NOT saying only skin color counts. One of you who decided to take exception with my interpretation of cultural differences threw that one into the mix.

But unless and until the original poster comes in and gives us all some clarification, I'm outta this one.