[Folks were REAL clingy to anyone new and it freaked all of us out so we never went back]

heh yeah...I don't blame you that would be pretty unnerving. Sometimes folks can go a wee bit over the top with the friendliness O_O

For me personally I try to take a live and let live attitude. If people ask my religion I tell them. If they ask questions I try my best to answer them and give my opinions on them. If they seem very interested by all means I encourage them to talk to any missionaries in the area and go attend a church service and from there decide for themselves. But I don't believe in being pushy, I try not to beat people over the head with my faith and I don't believe in being friends with someone just out of the hopes that they'll convert.

Having said that, Lily I am going on what I have read in the Doctrine and Covenants and my own personal experience.

I've never heard the Prophet and other leaders of the church do anything but praise the single sisters in the church for their faithfulness and for all the good work they do and not because they feel " sorry " for them but because they do have respect for what they do. I've never been told that I won't make it to heaven if I died unmarried tommorrow :) and quite personally I think any guy who marries a girl because he feels sorry for her is missing the point.

It makes sense to me that anyone, male or female, who does all they can to live a worthy and faithful life will be granted the highest blessings that God can offer them and that God will take into due consideration the circumstances of the life that each individual lived while on earth and the desires of the individual's heart.

But truth be told...I'm not an authority on how precisely things are arranged in the afterlife :) as I've never been there.

Polygamy...that's a whole 'nuther can of worms {O) feel free to PM. My favorite view on that " peculiar institution " is from " Around The World In Eighty Days " by Jules Verne when a Mormon races for the train and just barely makes it. That whole chapter is hilarious {O)

" When the Mormon had recovered his breath, Passepartout ventured to ask him politely how many wives he had; for from the manner in which he had decamped, it might be thought he had twenty at least.
'One, sir ' replied the Mormon, raising his arms heavenward, 'one and that was enough! ' "