They say that when something like this ends, what you need to do is grieve-- not the loss of the person he IS, but the loss of the person you THOUGHT he was. THEN the anger will have a healthy context to kick in.

I would suspect that the "commitment" was never there, and was part of keeping you content in the situation while he hunted his next wounded bird.

This is a time to take a good hard look at how he took you in-- the best indicator of a person's future behavior is their past behavior. He followed his pattern, and has little incentive to change it now or in the future-- there are always people who want to feel taken care of, who are easy prey for this sort. YOU, on the other hand, CAN change your pattern and if you are going to do that, this hurt is a good incentive. Thus a person who has been victimized becomes a non-victim.

Another Regular Catter