As in the 3-D world, when it works it is wonderful and when it doesn't it isn't. There are a number of couples here on Mudcat who met via Cyberspace and are very happy together. Given that 50+% of ALL marriages end in divorce why expect better results from the internet? Or worse for that matter?

This unnamed 'Catter will grieve, learn from the experience and move on hopefully. Meantime, she has my sympathy. Keeping in mind that that he too may be a frequent poster here, I hope that they choose to remain anonymous. Many here have gone through breakups and divorces. It can be made intolerable when friends and acquaintances start taking sides.

Good luck to both of you.
SINS